From smirk to smiles: Adventures with Bill

Bill & I were all smiles when we snapped this picture at the end of our last coaching session.

 

But the session didn’t start out that way – at least not for me!

 

I arrived at 8am, exasperated and frustrated. I had promised to bring him 10 copies of something, and my printer went on the fritz that morning.

 

Bill greeted me with his usual smile, and we shared the usual morning pleasantries as we walked upstairs to his office. “Good morning. How was your weekend? etc.”

 

He was smiling but I sure wasn’t. I felt like a bit of a failure. Arriving empty handed with no progress in my homework from last session. Blech.

 

It wasn’t the huge kind of identity crisis where you think your whole life is meaningless.

 

It was the kind of itchy, scratchiness you feel when you’ve rushed out of the house and realized you forgot your important papers. Or like when you have company coming and the toilets overflow 15 minutes before their arrival.

 

The kind of snafu where you mutter under your breath, “Of course…Newton’s law. What can go wrong, must go wrong.” Or “Darn technology…we were better off without all this stuff!”

 

Mine was, “This always happens to me.”

 

I was off my game.

 

“What do you want to look at this session?” he asked me.

 

“Blah, blah, blah,” my words came out in a rush – like bottled up frustration so often does. I spent the next several minutes telling him everything that was not going right for me.

 

I had to shut up after a while because I just got tired of hearing myself talk.

 

“How can we re-frame this?” he asked me.

 

Then he gave me a taste of my own medicine.

 

“It sounds to me like you’ve had a lot going on with your mother visiting for 5 days, an event at the studio, and a stomach bug.

 

“And you still managed to keep things going.” He encouraged me to cut myself some slack.

 

Ahem. Physician, heal thyself.

 

And then we re-framed.

 

We reviewed my goals, one of which is to clearly articulate my life’s core purpose, my values and the vision for my work.

 

We discussed a few positive things that are happening in my work. I started to feel a little better.

 

I’ve learned that my core purpose revolves around connecting with others and about doing positive things in the world.

 

As for core values, I listed way too many.  So Bill asked me to narrow it down to 5 categories. I’ll let you in on what one of them is:  transformation.

 

I am here to constantly transform myself through personal growth, study, hard work and letting go of the results. And I am here to help others do the same.

 

I arrived at my coaching session defeated and down. After a session of talking through the (erroneous) thoughts of failure, Bill had me return to the real work of remembering why I do the work I do. Talking about why I teach Iyengar Yoga always energizes me.

 

So we took a picture of this transformation.  I left the session refreshed, refocused and ready to go.

 

And we’re all smiles now!

 

 

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